最好的自己不在未來，就在現在。
認真回想，以前我好像在每一段關係中都是在扮演某一個角色，不由自主的在為每個對象做調整。不只有在戀愛上，有時候可能跟朋友、工作夥伴都是，尤其是在前輩面前，常常我都會本能反應似的改變自己。聲音要甜一點嗎？笑話要低級一點嗎？從穿衣服就可以看出，我今天是要跟誰吃飯。雖然是微調，但透露出了一件事，我好像不夠喜歡真正的自己，所以才會擔心大家也不會喜歡真正的我。我告訴自己即使累，但如果持續努力，有一天就能變成大家都喜歡的Lara。
久而久之我和世界的相處模式只有「由外到內」，會依照別人對我的反應去斷定我的下一步。大家會覺得我很好相處，我卻越來越不快樂。現在我慢慢開始懂了，原來我把順序弄反了。我該優先處理的是自己內心的感受，其他人買不買單，其實跟你一點關係都沒有。就像找另外一半，如果我跟夢中情人在一起，但我根本無法在他面前做自己，最後還是會走不下去。
我現在33歲，So What? 終於懂，「當下的自己」才是人生時間軸上最重要的！
對了，有人好奇這次「{}」的意思嗎？簡單說是「大括號」，在數學運算式中稱作「空集合」。數學不好的人就想像一個清空的行李箱吧。「空」不是無，而是無限可能。括號還有另外一個更好懂的意思，就是「優先處理」。將過去整理過後的自己，回歸純粹，態度成熟自信！(失戀後重新出發的人應該很有感觸吧！🤣)
Your best self is not in the future, but in the Now.
Looking back, I seem to have been playing a role in almost every relationship I was ever in. I'm not just talking about romantic relationships. Whether it was with friends or colleagues (especially seniors), I would modify myself almost instinctively. Should my voice be sweeter? My jokes dirtier? If you wanted to know who I was eating with that day, all you had to do was look at the clothes I was wearing.
The changes were subtle, but they still reflected a truth: I didn’t feel like the real me was enough so I was worried that other people would also find her lacking. I told myself that if I just kept working at it, I would someday become a version of Lara that everyone accepted.
Eventually I only knew how to get my cues from the external world. I would always base my next step on feedback I got from others. Most people considered me easy to get along with, but I grew more and more unhappy.
I think I had it all wrong. My first priority should have been listening to my inner voice. Whether or not other people agree with it is not in my control nor of my concern. Take looking for a partner. Even if I found the person of my dreams, it would never last if I couldn’t be myself around them.
I am 33 years old. So What? I finally understand that "the present self" is the most important thing on the timeline of life! It’s time to prioritize me!
By the way, is anyone curious about the meaning of "{}" this time? Besides the more commonly known representation of parentheses as prioritization, these curly brackets are called “the empty set”. The empty what? If like me, math is not your strongest suit, think of it as an empty suitcase. "Empty" doesn’t mean nothing, but infinite possibilities! What will you fill your life with this time?
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※ 引述《GA512204 (翔翔=)))》之銘言：
: 對別人說相信自己是Believe in yourself
: 那假如是"自己對自己"說可以用Believe in myself嗎
: 還是有其他更好的說法？
: 麻煩各位幫我解答...
前提a: 祈使句的(隱藏)主詞為說話對象(必為You)
前提b: 反身代名詞的指涉取決於主詞
a+b得c: 祈使句使用反身代名詞, 必定是yourself
1. A says to B "Believe in yourself."
Makes sense. 意味A鼓勵B去相信B自己
1'. A says to A "Believe in yourself."
Makes sense. 意味A鼓勵A去相信A自己
2. A says to B "Believe in myself."
Makes no sense. 不滿足c
2'. A says to A "Believe in myself."
Makes no sense. 不滿足c
然而, 誠如其他板友所說, 你可以不用祈使句而用一般句型:
3. A says "I should believe in myself."
Makes sense. 意思近1', A認為A該相信A自己, 語氣不如祈使句強烈(沒有激勵效果)
*句子意思裡沒有you, 所以不用考慮說話對象是誰
3'. A says "I believe in myself."
Makes sense. 但是意思不同於3, 純描述, 跟應不應該無關. 有可能You (do)
believe in yourself, 但其實you shouldn't.
: 推 jejeyu: 為什麼不是用trust me?
受詞變了, 差很多:
4. A says to B "Believe in/Trust me."
Makes sense. A請求B去相信A, 希望得到B的信任, 意思跟上面的鼓勵意味不同
believe in跟trust可能有很細微的差別, 但我就不多考慮了(懶)
4'. A says to A "Believe in/Trust me."
Makes no sense. 使役句主詞以說話對象(他者)的角度指到A,
me以說話者(自己)的角度指到A, 有所矛盾, 同句話用不同角度指到同個人會很怪
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